Family mediation sounds and feels complicated, but it can be a useful tool that benefits families in many ways. During a separation, it brings both sides together in a neutral space so they can resolve their differences and come to an agreement that works for everyone. Mediation is not something that happens overnight. It takes time, preparation, and trust for this kind of session to go well. If you are about to attend your first family mediation session as part of your divorce or separation process, these tips will help you get ready.
Know the basics of family mediation
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Family mediation is a process where you and your family meet with a neutral third person who facilitates a conversation between the sides. This person is there to help you talk through your issues and come to an agreement. The mediator does not make decisions for you or make choices such as who gets what asset – that is up to you and your ex-spouse. The mediator’s job is to help you communicate better and resolve your issues. For more information see this article about the family mediation process.
Set ground rules with your ex-spouse
Whatever the issues and disagreements between you and your ex-spouse, they can get heated during the mediation process. You need to set rules and boundaries to ensure the conversation stays constructive and constructive. If you and your ex-spouse have not already done so, now is the time to talk about ground rules and go over the mediation process. You can also look for mediation sessions online and watch them so you get an idea of what to expect. This can help you and your ex-spouse prepare for the mediation session.
Make a preliminary agreement
Before you go into mediation, it is important to make a preliminary agreement with your ex-spouse. This is something you both agree to so nothing comes up during the session and nothing is left unresolved. There is no need to write a full-blown agreement; this just takes a lot of time. A preliminary agreement can be a couple of paragraphs that outline what is agreed upon and what you both want. You can also write this on paper or on a word document so both of you have a copy. While making a preliminary agreement, set aside your emotions and personal feelings so you can come to an agreement that makes sense for both of you.
Take care of yourself and your children
Family mediation can be a stressful process, especially if you and your ex-spouse have a difficult relationship. If you are nervous, anxious, or afraid, it will show. You need to be prepared to face your ex-spouse and listen to what they have to say. This is not an easy thing to do, but it is necessary. You need to take care of yourself in the lead-up to the mediation session. Eat well, sleep, and exercise.
You can also use meditation or yoga to help you relax and focus. You also need to take care of your children. They will see how you feel and react to the mediation process. Here are some ways to help your children prepare: – Talk to your children about the mediation process so they know what to expect and feel included. – Make sure your children know they are not responsible for any of the issues.
The mediation process is between you and your ex-spouse. – Make sure your children know they will not be asked any personal questions about their lives. – Let your children know that it is okay to be emotional and that it is normal to cry. – Make sure your children know they do not have to speak unless they feel comfortable doing so.
Meet with your lawyer before the session
It is important to meet with your lawyer before the mediation session so you both have a clear understanding of what you want to get out of the mediation. Mediation is not a legal process where you and your ex-spouse will be asked to sign papers or documents. No one will ask you to make an official decision or sign anything. However, the mediation process is still very important. It can help you come to an agreement that you can then present to your lawyer to create a final agreement.
Conclusion
Family mediation sounds and feels complicated, but it can be a useful tool that benefits families in many ways. It brings all the sides of the family together in a neutral space so they can resolve their differences and come to an agreement that works for everyone. Mediation is not something that happens overnight. It takes time, preparation, and trust for this kind of session to go well. If you are about to attend your first family mediation session as part of your divorce or separation process, these tips will help you get ready.
